Thursday, October 27, 2011

When Does God Give Up?

That's it!  
I've just had it with them!

Have you ever said or thought those words about someone?  I have.  And honestly, most of these people were fellow believers.

There are just some people that seem impossible to please.  You didn't shake their hand today at church, or you did shake their hand, but you weren't smiling.  The music was too loud or too soft.  It's too cold or too hot in the sanctuary.  The furnace is too loud, the fans are too cold, and the light shining in through the doors is blinding them. You only visited them three times when they were sick instead of everyday.  As a Pastor's wife, I think I have about heard it all, and sometimes it just gets to be too much.

The other day I was thinking about the latest complaint I had heard, via Facebook, no less.  I was grumbling and said out loud, to myself - and to God, "I give up!  There's no pleasing these people."  That's when God clearly spoke to my heart, and I knew that He was not going to let me give up on anyone.  It also made me wonder - when does God give up?

How can I give up on someone when God never gives up on me?  

I'm sure you all would find it hard to believe, but I can be a little disagreeable at times. (smiles)  I'm sure I have made God shrug His shoulders in wonder at my behavior.  But the beautiful truth is that He has never given up on me; He won't give up on you either.  And God has called us to show that same grace and compassion to our brothers and sisters.

Share each other's burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.  Galatians 6:2

Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me? Up to seven times?”
Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.  Matthew 18:21,22

But love your enemies (or those who really irritate you), do good to them, and lend to them without expecting to get anything back.  Luke 6:35

Then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose.  Philippians 2:2

Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.  Romans 12:10

What other scriptures can you think of ?

Many blessings,

Linking with:
Thought Provoking Thursday @ SomeGirl's Website
Koinonia Thursdays @ Sharing the Journey


  1. I'm so glad God never gives up on us, even when we're being difficult. It's hard listening to grumbling and whiny people but that's what dieing to self means I guess. Keep it up sister you're a GREAT pastor's wife/worship leader :)

  2. I have had the same issue. I have had people try to get me to side with them on an issue. And when I tell them to lets refer to what the bible says, that is not good enough for them. And there have been those that I just choose not to be around anymore. This was wrong of me. If God looked at me the same way, He would have walked away a long time ago. I started following your blog. God Bless You.

  3. Hi Lisa - I'm sure as a pastor's wife you have so many expectations placed on you. I will certainly lift you up in prayer. I would never have been a great pastor's wife - I would have caused endless problems being too direct! I think for you to decide to not give up on 'those grumblers' says much about you. And I am truly grateful that God does not give up on me! God bless Lisa

  4. Great post. I have seen some comments recently, facebook too, and I think the same thing. How can they say/think that! How can they complain! I just give up! But as you said, God doesn't give up on me so how can I give up others. Great encouragement.

  5. Great reminder, Lisa. God's grace is endless. He never gives up on us. Sometimes it is difficult to extend that grace to others. But then God reminds me how undeserving I am too.

  6. It really is difficult sometimes, to let the little "commentary" roll off of our backs, but as you noted, that's exactly what we're called to do.

    Thankfully, in the same fashion God never gives up on us either. It's that mercy and grace that draws us back to Him, and holds us closely until those moments pass.

    Have a Blessed Day Lisa!

  7. Ahhh Lisa... such convicting words! I've "been done" with people many times and you are so right... God never gives up on us and yet we are quick to give up on others! Great thoughts to ponder!

    Thanks for linking up today with the Koinonia Community!

  8. I can only imagine the things that you hear... I know my pastor says every so often "before I say this (whatever it is) please don't email me with why you think it's a bad idea." So, I know it's got to be really hard. I know I'm a broken record on the topic of just "believing the best" about people, but it gives me such great peace! When someone complains or offends me... anytime my fleshy emotions rise up against anyone I remember "just believe the best" because I never know what's happening in their life that is causing them to act or speak in a way that is less than nice. Somehow doing this lets all the steam out of puffed up me. Oh, and Lysa Terkeaurst's quote "you may not be able to control your circumstances, but you can control how you respond to them." If believing the best fails... that quote seems to work too :) Blessings dear friend!

  9. I thank God that He is always there for me. God Bless You.

  10. Hi Lisa,
    Great post. Oh how many times have I felt like giving up on someone? I am thankful God did not give up on me.

  11. Although not a pastor's wife, I work for my Pastor, and I've read, heard and seen so much stuff that makes me want to toss people aside. But I am so grateful that God never gives up on me. How can I give up on them? Very thought provoking.