Friday, September 30, 2011

Friends, Who Needs Them!

For years I tried to convince myself that this was true.

I had a really good friend growing up, but our relationship was conditional; I had to stay in line in order to keep her friendship. 

In school, I always seemed to be the third wheel.  I had a group of friends, but they all seemed to be in pairs, then there was me.

For the first eleven years of our marriage, I didn't really have a friend at all.  The church we attended was 30 minutes away, in another state, so I didn't form any bonds with those women.  And being a stay-at-home mom of twins kept me in isolation.

I happy to say now, that God has brought some wonderful women into my life and they are great friends!  They love, support, challenge and encourage me.  What a blessing!

But through it all, there has been one Friend who has never abandoned me.  He has never tried to manipulate me, and He doesn't hold grudges against me.  He is quick to forgive and His love never fails.  It's the Lord Jesus Christ!

I don't know the circumstances or surroundings in which you find yourself today, but this I do know - whether you are rich in friends or you are feeling like you are all alone, let me encourage you with this truth:

God Loves You!

And I am convinced that nothing 
can ever separate us from God's love. 
Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, 
neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow--
not even the powers of hell can separate us from God's love. 
Romans 8:38

Many blessings,

Linking up with Lisa-Jo at The Gypsy Mama for Five Minute Fridays. 


  1. Lisa, your experience growing up seems much like mine. I had a couple friends but no deep relationships. So thankful for the friendships the Lord has brought into my life in the last few years. And,so thankful for having "met" you! Happy Friday!

  2. Growing up I did have a very close friend. We were like sisters. But after I married, we grew apart. It hurt. Then I was blessed with another friend and over a series of events, I was hurt really badly and decided I didn't need friends anymore. But God knew I did. I am so blessed for your friendship sweet sister.

    I love your take on friend. What better friend is there than Jesus. He is the ultimate BFF. :)

  3. aw. I am sorry you were the third wheel. I am. I hate when people feel left out. I switched schools 100 times growing up so I was always working working working to be friends...with anyone. I am so glad God brought you close girlfriends. Also that verse you put at the bottom of the post was so encouraging. awesome.

  4. Your story of friends sounds SO much like mine! I have just recently became friends with a group of ladies at my church...though I still feel a little isolated as they all homeschool and stay at home, which I don't, but we still are forming some great friendships!

  5. Love this. he is the best friend but I'am glad God brought wonderful friends in your life later.

  6. Ya know, I'm 29 years old and STILL struggle to build those deep and meaningful friendships. I've always struggled. High school, college and now as a pastors wife. I have to daily remind myself of that verse you shared, but, also challenge myself to get out there, be available and vulnerable...because, obviously I'm not the only one who battles with this. I mean, look at all your comments! :)

  7. Amen, there is no one closer than Jesus. Love that verse in Romans!

  8. Amen Lisa!

    It felt like you were telling my story. I never really had those deep connected friendships, and I always felt like the third wheel. I still don't have a large group of friends, but a small and mighty one, and my best friend of all beings Jesus. So glad to have you Lisa, I call you my friend.

    Blessings Lisa.

  9. Hi Lisa - I always had one good friend growing up so I feel blessed because I never felt isolated. But I isolated myself later, not wanting to share my hurts (as an adult) but thank God for His grace and mercy toward me in that He made sure my friends never gave up on me even though, to this day, my biggest hurt has only ever been shared with our ultimate one true friend, Jesus.
    God bless, and I hope one day we meet for real as I believe we'd be good friends
    God bless

  10. Hi Lisa,

    God certainly meant for us to have friends; it's His way of helping us to see the world through different eyes than our own! And how blessed and thankful we are to call Him friend; He is always walking beside us and going ahead when we need someone to show us the way! :)

    Blessings and love,